Conflict
Arguing in front of children
The research distinguishes between kinds of conflict rather than between its presence and absence, and the distinction is useful.
Topic
conflict
Every Relationship Punch article tagged conflict — 8 pieces across 4 sections.
Family & Parenting
Co-parenting after separation
The research is reasonably clear about what affects children, and it points at the conflict rather than the separation.
Conflict
Contempt, and why it is the one to watch
Of the corrosive conflict behaviours, one is consistently identified as the most damaging, and it is the easiest to slip into.
Communication
Bringing something up at the right moment
Timing accounts for more of a conversation’s outcome than wording does, and the good windows are narrow and identifiable.
Conflict
Repair attempts, and why they matter more than the argument
The small moves that de-escalate a conflict are unimpressive individually and appear to do most of the work.
Conflict
The argument that is never about what it is about
Recurring disputes over trivial matters generally carry a second subject, and identifying it is more useful than resolving the trivial one.
Communication
Complaining without criticising
The difference between a complaint and a criticism is a sentence structure, and it changes what happens next.
Attachment
What the research on lasting couples actually found
Decades of observational work point at a small number of behaviours, and most of them are about ordinary moments rather than crises.